With tweens heading into puberty, it’s important to ensure that conversations with 12 year olds stay engaging and appropriate. Here are 20 conversation starters you can use to start meaningful conversations with your tween.
1. What’s your favourite subject in school? Introduce them to the idea of talking about school in a friendly, interesting way.
2. What type of music do you listen to? Ask them to explain their tastes in music and why they like it.
3. What were the best and worst things that happened to you this week? This question will help them reflect on their week and appreciate the highs and lows.
4. What are your family pet peeves? Ask them to talk about the things that their family members do that really puzzle them or make them angry.
5. What would you do if you had infinite time and money? It’s a fun way to let your child imagine and share their dreams without any constrains or worry.
6. What’s the last book you read? Not only is this a great way to encourage them to read, but they can also share their thoughts on the story and the characters.
7. What do you like and don’t like about our city/town? Get them thinking about their local community in a positive and constructive way.
8. How do you stay organized? Provoke a conversation about how they stay on top of their responsibilities and tasks.
9. What are your thoughts on social media? This is a great chance to discuss the pros and cons of social media use and how to stay safe online.
10. What do you do to relax? Ask them to share their go-to activities when they need to relax and wind down.
11. What would be your ideal day out? Encourage them to dream big and reveal their most exciting plans and ideas.
12. What’s your favorite TV show and why? Use this as an opportunity to understand their interests and preferences in media.
13. What would you like to do in the summer? Introduce them to the idea of planning ahead and making the most of their time off.
14. Who is your role model in life? This can empower them to talk about their aspirations and what they admire in certain people.
15. What did you do to help someone this week? Get them to think outside of themselves and recognize the importance of being kind to others.
16. What are your concerns about the world? Even younger kids can be aware of global issues, so allow them to express their worries.
17. What would you do for other people if you were invisible for one day? This question will help them to think about how they can contribute to their community without gaining recognition for it.
18. What do you think about technology? Give them a chance to discuss the potential dangers and rewards of technology.
19. How do you manage conflict with friends? This encourages them to think about the best methods for addressing disagreement in a constructive manner.
20. What’s your favorite spot in the home? Ask them to share their favorite places to hang out and relax, so they get comfortable talking about topics close to home.